|Memorise: “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered” (1 Pet 3:7)
Read: Matthew 1:18-25
|In Matthew 1:18-20, Joseph who was betrothed to Mary and knew that he had never had carnal knowledge of her, paid her a visit and found her manifesting signs of pregnancy. He was shocked. How could Mary – his heart throb go and sleep with another man while they were in courtship? It was a big blow.According to the provisions of the Law of Moses recorded in Deuteronomy 22:23-24, she was supposed to be publicly disgraced and face the death penalty. But as hurt as he was, he was still protective. He did not want to take her through all that. He wanted to disengage quietly so that nobody would know he was not responsible for the pregnancy. One lesson here is that we should prayerfully think through crucial decisions. He did not rush. He took time to think out the best way of handling the situation. When your spouse has caused you shame, how do you respond? Would you disgrace her publicly so that she can learn the hard way?
Joseph was very protective of Mary even after he thought she was unfaithful to him. How protective are you over your wife? Do you absorb her weaknesses or you amplify them? In what ways have you tried to assist her in her weak areas? Or have you been using threats, complaints, beatings or intimidations on her?
Another lesson we can learn from Mary and Joseph in Matthew 1:18-25 is how God guides. Mary and Joseph both encountered angels. Mary was told of an unprecedented virgin conception and birth of the Saviour of the world. Joseph was given the name of the product of that conception. Who said God cannot guide a man and a woman on an issue such as marriage?
Are you single? If you seek God’s face in marriage, He will lead you to His choice. And vice versa. God can only guide you if you completely surrender to His leading. As long as you wish to have your way, He will hold back His choice. Even as a married couple, you can be led by God on the same issue. To what extent do you and your spouse yield to God’s guidance? Joseph was very pliable in God’s hands. He planned to leave Mary after he found her pregnant but immediately the angel gave him the true picture, he dropped his negative plan. How easy is it for God to correct you?
|Being hurt is no excuse for meanness, but enough reason to return to God for healing. Ask God to heal your hurts.