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CHOOSING FOR YOURSELF?

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    By Pastor Enoch Adeboye
Memorise: “So he fed them according to the integrity of his heart; and guided them by the skilfulness of his hands” ( Psalm 78:72)

Read: Genesis 2:21-22

psalm78In Genesis 24:1-6, not only was Abraham concerned about Isaac’s bride, he ensured his chief servant was put under oath to pick from his home town. For many years, Abraham sojourned in Canaan – the promised land yet when it came to choosing a wife for his son Isaac, he went home. A time to marry is a time to return home – to the Body of Christ.

Every believer has his or her spouse waiting in the Body of Christ, not necessarily in the same denomination. Are you single and trusting God for a husband or wife? Go back to the Body of Christ. Once you have accepted God’s verdict that unbelievers are completely out of it – no matter how intelligent, rich, understanding or compatible the fellow may be, the next thing is to decide whether you want to choose by yourself, through some assistance by men, or you want God to choose for you.

You are free to choose a fellow believer as a marriage partner but there are high risks involved in this. It is possible the fellow you see as very zealous, up and doing and an ideal spouse could be putting up an act, or may be a spiritual weight. Many believers have fallen prey to such actors in the past and are today full of regrets.

A promising young brother got involved with a sister who joined the church. She went through the young converts class and was water-baptized. Before the pastor knew it, they were seeing each other and eventually fell into fornication. After the brother was disciplined, he went ahead to marry the lady. Years later, the initial fire in the brother refused to ignite.

He continued to serve God peripherally. When he was being considered for a ministerial training, his wife was the excuse. Her presence in his life had quenched the Pentecostal fire in him. Younger believers have come and over taken the brother, yet his eyes have not opened to his persistent lukewarm state. Another reason not to choose by yourself is that whatever you use as criteria for your choice may not stand the test of time.

If you are choosing him because he is rich or choosing her because she is very pretty, what happens when that wealth or beauty disappears tomorrow? You can be sure that will become a big problem. Also, human beings are generally limited in their ability to make right choices. You may be choosing that fellow because of what you can see today instead of looking at his tomorrow. Let God choose for you!

Some pastors manipulate their members to marry only from their local parish contrary to the will of God. Never play God in the lives of those under you!

POLYGAMY NOT ALLOWED

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   By Pastor Enoch Adeboye
Memorise: “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband” (1 Corinthians 7:2)

Read: 1 Corinthians 7:1-2

polygamy“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery” (Matthew 19:9).

A Christian who is married but goes ahead to take a second wife, or keeps a mistress outside, or divorces and remarries is an adulterer. In the Old Testament, polygamy was allowed but not without its negative effects on family life. However, in the New Testament, the Lord Jesus brought us back to how it was from the beginning.

Certain practices such as polygamy and divorce were permitted then because of the hardness of their hearts. Having seen the negative effects of such on families, He came to put things right with His grace to support. Anyone who is married but still looks out for sexual gratification from any other woman is an adulterer and is heading for hell.

In Matthew 19:4-6, an equation is given: Two – a man and his wife shall be one flesh. Two, not three or four. This talks about a divine blend into oneness. No polygamous home is one before God because they have failed to meet with Heaven’s equation. It is when two become one that it becomes difficult to separate them. This is why most polygamous homes are faced with division and strife, and break faster than true two-some homes.

If you look at the early church, you will notice that polygamy was out of fashion, but the few who stuck with it were not given any meaningful spiritual assignment (1 Timothy 3:2). God did not make a man to be the husband of two or more wives. That is utter confusion! If your pastor or leader is the husband of more than one wife, run out of that assembly. If your pastor or prophet is married, but still keeps a mistress or freely sleeps with other women, he is a false prophet.

Run away from that assembly before he takes you to hell. A polygamist leader will look for various ways, including scriptures to justify his sin. Abraham was a polygamist but he made restitution concerning Hagar. Were you a polygamist before you got saved? Go to your pastor for counselling.

Lust of the flesh, lust of the eyes and pride of life are the root causes of polygamy. Ask God to break their hold over you.

Should a Christian marry an unbeliever?

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  By Pastor Enoch Adeboye
Memorise: “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you” (1 Peter 5:7)

Read: Genesis 24:1-6

“And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof” (Genesis 2:21).Image result

God is the author of marriage. Marriage was originally designed to be one of the most beautiful relationships that could exist. But the fall of man into sin has produced several versions of marriages.

Today, all kinds of things happen in marriage because we have left God out of an institution He established. Couples choose to go ahead into marriage without consulting Heaven’s manual for marriages. No wonder things are not as were originally designed. The good news is that no matter how bad the situation might have been with your marriage or family, it can be brought back on line as you return to the basics. This season, the Lord will intervene in your family and give you a true home in Jesus’ Name.

In Genesis 24, Abraham had advanced in age when he arranged for his son Isaac to be married. He was very concerned about where his son’s wife would come from. He warned his chief servant – Eliezer not to take any of the daughters of Canaan even though he lived there. In verse four, he says, “But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac”.

And he made him to swear that he would do as instructed. Beloved, just as Abraham was concerned about where his son would marry from, so also is the Lord concerned about where your spouse would come from. It is clear from Abraham’s experience that there are places believers can marry from and those we cannot marry from. Believers are forbidden marriage to Canaanites – unbelievers.

Are you single and searching for a partner? God your Father is very concerned about it. In 2 Corinthians 6:14-18, He warns that you should not consider an unbeliever as your partner. It is spiritually suicidal to do so. If you are genuinely born again but you are in a relationship with an unbeliever or an unsaved churchgoer, break that relationship or you may regret it later.

The least a believer can do is to marry any fellow believer, but this is not good enough. God does not want you to be married to just any believer but the right one for you. Every believer has a right partner. Prayerfully wait on God for the fellow. Besides, God cares about every other aspect of your life. If you can lay all your cares and worries on Him, He will prove to you that He cares.

A believer with God’s gifts who sins will continue to manifest the gifts. If he repents, the Holy Spirit will continue from where He stopped. But if he does not repent, demons will take over the use of his gifts.

Prayer points: Deliverance by the blood of Jesus

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Revelation 12 vs 11: And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death.

  1. Blood of Jesus, arise and fight for my glory
  2. Blood of Jesus arise and fight for my healing
  3. Blood of Jesus, arise and fight for my salvation
  4. Blood of Jesus, arise and fight for my deliverance
  5. Blood of Jesus, arise and fight for my breakthroughs
  6. Blood of Jesus, arise and fight for my promotion.
  7. Blood of Jesus, arise and fight for my marriage

 

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How to deal with difficult father and mother in laws problems

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There is hardly any marriage that does not have associated issues with mother and father in laws from both partners, but we need the wisdom of God and  Christian heart to handle this. Genesis 2 vs 24, is one of the several biblical verses that should guide couples on how to handle in laws relationship

Genesis 2 vs 24: Therefore shall man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.mother in law problems

The key points from this passage are:

  1. They man (and the woman) should be physically separated from his/her parents. If you marry and you still work in your fathers business (unless he has substantially handed it over to you), and you still reside in your parents’ house, then you are not yet separated from them. Once you marry, inherited businesses should be completely handed over to you, your parents should not be your Boss or employer, be your own Boss or start your own business.
  2. To some extent, the man (and the woman) should be emotionally separated from your parents. Once you marry, your partner- wife or husband comes first before your parents. If you love your parents more than your spouse, or you put your parents first, above your spouse and immediate family, then there is a problem.
  3. The Bible says, you must leave your parents, and cleave to your wife. So think more of your wife more than your parents. Love your wife more than your parents. Don’t take instructions from your parents, take instructions from your husband or wife. Your parents should only advise you, not dictate to you how you should run your family.
  4. Your parents are in a separate family, once you marry you have also started your own family.
  5. Lastly, the bible says the couple shall become one flesh in thoughts, planning, decisions, etc. As such both couples should work towards togetherness, mutual understanding, and unity of purpose

 

My father and my God, give me a good husband or wife in Jesus name

I shall not marry my enemy in Jesus name

Fire of God, repair my marriage in Jesus name

 

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How to make your marriage work

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Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God- Ephesians 5 vs 21

mr and mrs babatope babalobiToday is my 19th year wedding anniversary, and on retrospect, I give thanks to God for giving me a happy home and a successful marital life, a lovely wife- Bukola Babalobi and godly children. This was my wish on August 3, 1996; and I have no regrets but joy in taking the marital vows, almost two decades ago.Thank God my marriage is working.
What makes a marriage work? I have made a compilation of tips for successful marriage based on my 19years experience; hoping this will benefit aspiring and younger couples.
1. The fear of God to me is the first and most important factor that contributes to a successful marriage. Both couples, particularly the husband should have the fear of God; which implies both couples should be born again Christians. In my counsel to younger people, I have always said marriages often run into crisis when either or both partners do not have the fear of God. I have always advised believers against marrying anyone who does not believe in the God you believe in, as both of you should drink from the same fountain.

It is the fear of God that leads the husband to love his wife; to be a responsible husband and father; it is the fear of God that prevents the man from extra marital affairs; it is the fear of God that keeps him in the house to work out the success of his marriage; it’s the fear of God that makes him to understand the sanctity of marriage and the need to keeps its covenant.

By the grace of God, I can openly boost of not knowing any other woman or not indulging in a single extra marital affair for the 19 years, in spite of my often long travels from my home. What has kept me in check is simply the fear of God that restrains me from indulging in sexual sin, not only against my wife, against my body, as well against my God.
On the part of the wife, it’s also the fear of God that keeps her in check; submitting to the husband as extolled by the scriptures; and avoiding acts that could risk the success of the marriage.
2. The second important factor for a successful marriage is the role of the Church. If both couples are Christians and associate with the body of Christ, the chances of marital crises are lower. The Church plays a moulding and balancing role in the lives of Christians. I regard the church as the most influential institution for Christian homes.

Marriage itself is instituted by God, and the church represents His body on earth. So what a good church does through its messages is to develop the character of the couples; and as they grow and develop in the Christian faith, the works of the flesh (anger, lying, pride, arrogance, greed, selfishness, sins etc) that often causes quarrels at homes gradually disappears. My wife spends a substantial part of her daily life in church related activities. Occasionally I complain, but I am also quick to realise that this keeps her in good godly company, away from negative peer pressure, gossips, and bad company.

3. The third important factor for me is Openness and Transparency. There should be no secrets between couples, knowing fully well both of you are one flesh. Evil thrives under secrecy. Secrecy breeds suspicions. By the grace of God, my wife and I both try to be as open as possible. My wife knows my salary, even all my children know my monthly salary, as I believe there is nothing to hide; and I spend it on things mutually agreed.

Every month, I sit down with her to do a budget, even before the salary hits the account. At the early years of the marriage, specifically in the 1990s, when she was the only person working, and on a monthly salary of Two thousand naira (N2000), she normally handed over the remaining N1800 to me to spend, after removing the tithe. My wife and I are joint signatories to all my accounts- personal and corporate. She knows the Pins of my ATMS, and I know hers.

An incident happened a couple of years ago, I traveled outside Nigeria. And as it is my normal practice, I handed over my phones to her as I did not want to miss my local calls. One of her colleagues at work was shocked, because her husband would never allow her to read his text messages or pick his calls even when he is at home. But this was a case of a man who handed his phones to the wife and traveled abroad.

Of course, if I have affairs, I would not allow my wife free access to my calls and messages. I make it a practice to disclose all my relationships to my wife including the few female colleagues I am close with in or out of work. Openness instills trust and strengthens the bond. Anything you can not disclose to your wife is evil.

4. The fourth factor is self-will and determination on the part of the couple to make the marriage work. God has given us the power of self will, the freedom to choose between right and wrong. You have to choose to be a faithful husband,a  responsible father and deliberately work towards achieving this.

If you don’t want to become a polygamist, then you have to stick to one wife. I choose to make my marriage work in spite of all challenges and weaknesses, and thank God it is working. When I visited United States for the first time in many years ago, I faced pressure from a close relation to stay back and elope with an arranged ‘wife’ in California to facilitate the legalization of a stay in US. But I  choose to respect the sanctity of marriage and returned back to Nigeria with its harsher economic realities. No one commits sin unintentionally, and the quality of our lives is the outcome of the decisions we have taken in the past.

5. Of course there are several other factors which time and space will not permit me to mention, the role of intense prayers and fasting, spiritual warfare and deliverance, the word of God, finance, extended family, faithfulness to God, etc

It has also not been a bed of roses. The first decade was particularly trying, but the grace of God was sufficient to overcome challenges.

6. I look at the future with greater confidence, believing my marriage like the path of the righteous shall be brighter and filled with more testimonies in Jesus name. At a time forces of darkness have unleashed attacks on Christian homes, my prayer is that our homes shall remain aglow radiating Gods love, faithfulness, grace, favour, deliverance, and mercy in Jesus name.

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Essence of evangelism and Why christians must evangelise

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Memorise: “The same came for a witness, to bear witness of the Light, that all men through him might believe” (Jn 1:7)

Read: John 1:6-8

In 2 Kings 5:2-4, it was Naaman’s young house maid that God used in linking him with his healing. There is nobody too small or too big for God to use for His glory. She was a very good witness. She bore witness of the miracles she had seen and heard in Israel and it paid off. Every follower of Christ has been called to be a witness of the Lord.In John 1:7, John the Baptist was sent as a witness of Jesus Christ so that all men through him might believe in Jesus. Like the little maid, John did a good job as Christ’s witness. The apostles of old and the Early Church were also called to be witnesses of Jesus. You have been saved so that you can be a witness of Jesus. God loves good witnesses.

There is power in witnessing for Christ. If you want to experience the miraculous, tell others about Jesus – what He did for you, how He saved you from sin and that He can do the same or much more for them. As soon as the person believes, power is released to change the fellow. Miraculous events lurk around faithful witnesses of Jesus.

In Acts 1:8, Jesus says you shall be a witness for Him. What does it mean to be a witness? In secular parlance, when there is a case involving two or more people and it is taken to a court of law, both parties would be expected to invite witnesses who would make statements in favour of the person who invited them.

The witness is expected to present a true account of the event in question. His testimony is also expected to strengthen the arguments of the one who invited him as a witness. One way or another, a witness is a representative of the one who invited him to testify in a matter. In the same vein, you are a witness of Jesus Christ if you have truly received Him into your heart as Lord and Saviour. You automatically become His representative – an ambassador of Christ.evangelist

What you say or do should be in favour of Jesus and strengthen His offer of salvation to the unbelievers. He expects you to present a true account of His dealings in your life and family since you accepted Him into your life. You can be a deciding factor whether the unbelievers around you would submit their lives to Christ or not. A witness who refuses to testify in court is obviously an enemy of the one he is representing.

Are you His witness? Are you still sharing the love of Jesus? Someone needs that testimony. Tell it today!

As a witness of Jesus Christ, lead a soul to Christ today. Also pray for the soul to be established.

 

 

By Pastor Enoch Adeboye

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Counselling tips on premarital sex and relationships

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Memorise: “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Heb 13:4)Read: Matthew 1:17-19
counsellingThe genealogy listed here included even those who were carried away in exile into Babylon and those born in the land of captivity. The fact that they were in captivity did not exempt them from this list.This means that all achievements and accomplishments for God’s Kingdom during captivity – wilderness period are noted by Heaven and remain relevant as far as God is concerned.

You should never be tired or discouraged during your trying moments. You will not lose your reward. Infact, service in the most difficult times attracts greater rewards for the believer.

Although not too much is said about Joseph in the Bible, this passage tells us one or two things about him. He was a morally upright and God fearing man. He was betrothed to Mary yet he never defiled their bed. Unfortunately, many would- be couples today have taken their consent to marry as an excuse to fornicate or engage in sex before marriage.

Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge”. The moment you engage in premarital sex before or during courtship with the one you want to marry, it erodes honour in your marriage. You cannot eat your cake and have it! You cannot defile your bed and retain the honour God has prepared to envelope you and your spouse.

Do you know that if Joseph had forced his way into sleeping with Mary before their marriage, she would never have been the mother of Jesus? But because they kept their bed, God decided to honour them by asking His only begotten Son to come through that couple. Do you know that God still rewards couples who keep to God’s Word and ensure their bed is undefiled? You can be like Mary and Joseph.

Keep yourself pure. Your body is not for fornication. You abuse your body when you fornicate. Your body was never designed to be used for fornication. Stop abusing your body through illicit sex, lustful exploits in nudity and pornography! Stop engaging your mind in polluted thoughts! Keep your heart pure.

The choice you make today determines the events of tomorrow. Watch your choices.

 

 

 

By Pastor Enoch Adeboye

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Marital breakthrough: I want to get married now!

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It is the will of God that you get married.  The institution of marriage was established by Him. Marital delays, marital failures, marital crisis, and marital breakdowns is not of God but of the devil.

Are you ripe for marriage? Do you desire to get married now? Now is the time your marital bells shall ring in Jesus name.

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Rules for Christian families: wives submit, husbands love

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Colossian 3 vs. 18-20 – 18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.20 Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord.

  1. Wives accept the authority of the husband and accepts he takes the final decisions
  2. Wives obey your husband as you would obey the Lord
  3. Husband love your wife indeed and in truth, which means you should care for her and avoid hurting her.
  4. Children obey the instructions of your parents as this makes God happy towards you.
  5. Fathers don’t abuse or over burden your children

Prayer

  • Spirit of God, take over my home in Jesus name.

 

 

 

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Bible scriptures on essential qualities of a good Christian husband?

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Galatians 5 vs. 22- But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,

  1. Love for others – Not selfish
  2. Peace with all men – Not a trouble maker
  3. Source of joy – Does not spread bad news or misfortune. Also brings good news, and a blessing to others
  4. Long suffering – Patiently preserves and make sacrifices for others
  5. Gentleness – A gentleman, not a troubler
  6. Goodness – His hands are clean and his heart is pure.
  7. Faith – Not fearful, but confident, hopeful, inspirator, motivator
  8. Meekness – Not arrogant, loud. Not a noisemaker
  9. Temperance – Not hot tempered or lacking self control
  10. Spirit filled– Not carnally minded.

How to avoid fornication and adultery

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1 Corinthian 7 vs. 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.

1.     Get married

2.     Be faithful to your spouse

 

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My wife denies me of sex

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1 Corinthian 7 vs. 2-3But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

1.     Every spouse has sexual responsibility to his partner

2.     In case when a spouse fails or refuses to fulfill his/her responsibility, the reason for these has to be investigated and resolved prayerfully through pastoral counseling.

3.     It is a sin to deny your spouse sex without a good cause.

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Sermon: I don’t want to go to hell

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1 Corinthian 9 vs. 9-10Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived:Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men[a] 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

 

To escape hell, avoid the following sins

1.     Fornication – Premarital sex

2.     Adultery – Extramarital sex

3.     Idolatry

4.     Homosexuality

5.     Tattooing

6.     Stealing

7.     Greed

8.     Drunkenness

9.     Partying/clubbing

10.  Extortion

 

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Does the Bible allow divorce?

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Luke 16 vs. 18 – Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.

  1. Divorce is not allowed expect perhaps on the ground of adultery
  2. Marriage is till death do us part
  3. All contrary issues in your marital life could be resolved by prayer and fasting.

 

 

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Bible Scriptures for hard miracle

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Jeremiah 32 vs. 27

Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh: is there anything too hard for me?

  1. O God of Israel, give me a hard miracle in Jesus name.
  2. O God of Israel, do hard things for me in Jesus name.

 

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Is Homosexuality a sin in the bible?

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Genesis 1:27   So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them

The Bible consistently tells us that homosexual activity is a sin (Genesis 19:1-13; Leviticus 18:22; Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthians 6:9). Romans 1:26-27 teaches specifically that homosexuality is a result of denying and disobeying God.

Choosing a life/marriage patner: I shall not marry my enemy!

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Samson married three times, and at all times, he married his enemies.

There are six lessons we can learn from tragedy of Samson  Joshua 13 vs. 2-3)

  1. Make sure you marry a strong believer and s solid born again Christian
  2. Keep your mind open and patiently listen to the advice and counsel of your parents and pastors.
  3. Be guided by love, not lust. Check the character of your partner and don’t be captured by her beauty. Delilah was a beautiful woman with a beautiful name, but she did not have a beautiful character.
  4. Avoid polygamy, Samson chased three women, be contented with one wife or one husband and have self control.
  5. Rely on God for direction and not on what you see
  6. Keep your divine secrets.

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Story of Samson: Choosing a marriage partner

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This message is titled ‘Choosing a marriage partner’. You may also give it another title that ‘I will NOT marry my enemy’.

 

We are going to use the story of Samson as a case study in this sermon, and I refer you to go and read judges 13 to chapter 16.

The story of Samson is one of the greatest tragedies in the Bible, this was a man who was heavily anointed by God but had his anointing deflated by a strange woman, this was a man who was called by God to deliver a nation but ended up in a trap of a strange woman

  1. Samson was somebody that was raised by God to free Israelites from the captivity of Philistines but he ended up being captured by his enemies, Samson was somebody who was supposed to kill and destroy all his enemies but ended up saying the most Satanic prayer in the Bible, he said he should be allowed to me die with my enemies.
  2. I pray for somebody who is reading and listening to this message that you shall not die with your enemies in Jesus name.
  3. We read in Judges 13 vs. 5 that Samson was dedicated to God from birth  and his destiny was to deliver Israel out of the hands of Philistines the oppressors. Unfortunately he was not able to fulfill that destiny as he died in the hand of the Philistines. I pray once more that you shall not miss your destiny in Jesus name.
  4. There were three strange women in the life of Samson. Samson’s problem started when he married his first wife from the camp of the enemy, the Philistine. The first woman Samson married was the daughter of Timath, a Philistine town, who was given away to his friend, this shows the deceitfulness of the enemy.
  5. The second woman Samson in his life was the harlot of Gazar who ended up calling all of the residents to gather at the gate of the town in order to kill Samson.
  6. The third woman in the life of Samson was Delilah, who ended up betraying Samson into the hands of the Philistines by disclosing  to them the secret of his divine strength. I pray that you shall not be captured by a Delilah in Jesus name. Any Delilah that has been programmed to disanoint you, that Delilah shall die in Jesus name.

What are the implications of Samson’s love tragedy or Samson’s romance with strange women?

  1. The first implication was that the wife he married was taken away from him and replaced with another woman. I pray for you again that your wife shall not be replaced with a counterfeit woman in Jesus name
  2. The second implication was that because Samson decided to romance with his enemy, he gave them an easy opportunity to hunt him down.
  3. The third implication was that because Samson decided to lust after women, instead of fulfilling his divine mission, he lost his peace as he was not busy planning vengeance against his enemies.
  4. The forth implication was that because Samson embarked on a romantic voyage, he was forced to dance before Dagon the god of Philistines. I pray for you again that you shall not dance before idols in Jesus name.
  5. When Samson was growing up, it was written in the Bible that the Holy Spirit fell upon him mightily, but when he allowed himself to be captured by Delilah, the Holy Spirit departed from him. I pray for you again that your lust for a strange woman shall not cause you to loose your anointing in Jesus name.
  6. Because Samson decided to marry from the camp of his enemies, he ended up being captured by his enemies who bound him and forcefully plug out his eyes. I pray for you again that what you are lusting after with your eyes will not cause you to loose your sight in Jesus name.
  7. Samson prayed one of the strangest prayer in the Bible after when he was captured by his enemies. He prayed to God to allow him to die with his enemies. I pray for you that you shall not die with your enemies in Jesus name.
  8. Lastly, Samson lost his destiny. He was supposed to deliver Israel fro the hands of the Philistines but he ended up being captured and killed by the Philistines. I pray for you that your canal desire and lust will not lead you to strange tragic death in Jesus name.

I shall be concluding this message by looking at six lessons we can learn from tragedy of Samson and I am taking my reference from Joshua 13 vs. 2-3

  1. Make sure you marry a strong believer and s solid born again Christian
  2. Keep your mind open and patiently listen to the advice and counsel of your parents and pastors.
  3. Be guided by love, not lust. Check the character of your partner and don’t be captured by her beauty. Delilah was a beautiful woman with a beautiful name, but she did not have a beautiful character.
  4. Avoid polygamy, Samson chased three women, be contented with one wife or one husband and have self control.
  5. Rely on God for direction and not on what you see
  6. Keep secrets.

Bible scriptures on honeymoon

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Deuteronomy 24 vs. 5 – When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.

  1. God wants you to enjoy the wife of your youth
  2. Newly married should live together
  3. Newly weds should not take up jobs that will separate them.

 

 

 

 

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Bible: Should I marry a Muslim?

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Deuteronomy 7 vs. 3-4 – 3Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son. 4 For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly.

  1. Marrying an unbeliever will affect your love for God
  2. An unbeliever may succeed in converting you to his/her religion
  3. You may lose your salvation if you marry a non Christian
  4. You life may be cut short as a divine punishment for marrying an unbeliever

 

 

 

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Bible: Should a Christian marry a Muslim?

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Deuteronomy 7 vs. 3 – Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son.

  1. God does not expect believers to marry unbelievers.
  2. In the Old Testament, it is strictly forbidden.

 

 

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Bible on marriage problems

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Genesis 2 vs 24


Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

 

  1. God instituted marriage. So it is God’s wish that you get married. Don’t regret getting married. Two are better than one
  2. In most marriages, we like highlighting the faults and weaknesses of our spouse; and we overlook the strengths.
  3. If there are genuine weaknesses, think of how you can solve them.
  4. When you know  your weaknesses as a spouse, try and work on them for a change
  5. There is no perfect man, and there is no perfect marriage. Develop your marriage to become what you like it to become.
  6. Marriage brings together two strangers, so be patience with each other, and you shall understand each other over a period of time.
  7. Patience is the key word.
  8. The closest person to you should be your spouse.
  9. Don’t criticize your spouse publicly.
  10. If they are problems in your marriage, take it to God in prayer. He is the founder and foundation of your marriage.

 

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How to choose a right marriage partner

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How to choose a wife from a Godly family background

 

Proverbs 24:3-4: Through wisdom is a house builded; and by understanding it is established: And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

 

The place of wisdom, understanding and knowledge in building godly biblical homes is stated in the texts above.

 

A knowledge and understanding of the role of genealogical hereditary and nativity factors/ background of ones spouse will provide the wisdom and understanding in handling the negative issues that arise in the course of attempting to build Christian godly marital and home relationships in this end-time generation of ours. Read the rest of this entry »

Bible Scriptures on qualities of a good wife

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What does the Bible says about a woman, married or not, who is not a wife-material?

 

Someone who probably should know is the man, called the wisest man ever, who sampled one thousand women, having seven hundred wives and three hundred concubines (I Kings 11:3). Here are some of his sayings about such a woman:  Read the rest of this entry »

Premarital sex: Should I remain a Virgin?

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Songs of Solomon 8:8-10 record a conversation between a teenage girl and her older brothers on the virtue of chastity and the vice of promiscuity;

 

            “We have a little sister, and she has no breasts: what shall we do for our sister in the day when she is spoken for. If she is a wall, we will build upon her a battlement of silver and if she is a door, we will enclose her with boards of cedar”.

A wall is built to deliberately fence out intruders and protect the occupants. A door is an entrance through which any person could enter. A wall keeps out, a door lets in.

In the conversation, the brothers watched over the life of their teenage sister. They honor her for successfully keeping her chastity by resisting unworthy men who came calling to defile her in the days of her youth. If she tended to yield and give in to promiscuity, they rally round to protect and strengthen the resolve for good (verse 9).

“I am a wall…” proudly declares the Shulamite girl. Thank God the Shulamite was a wall. For maintaining her chastity and purity to the maturity of adulthood, she became in the eyes of he who married her, a pleasure, as one who finds peace and contentment (verse 10).

A chaste girl is a garden enclosed, a private spring, a fountain closed to others (S.O.S. 4:12). An immoral one is like a vineyard whose hedges, are broken down, so that all who pass by the way pluck for fruits, including boars and wild beasts (Ps. 80:12-13). Like a beautiful woman without self control, a pearled sow (Pro. 11:22).

What are you dear sister: a wall or a door, a private spring or a public river?  And you brother, do you aspire to fence in and protect our honorable sisters, or you strive to break the wall, enter the open door or pollute the waters?

“…He that breaks through a wall, a serpent shall bite” (Ecc. 10:8). Amen.

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Prematal sex: Should I keep my Virginity?

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Here are several reasons why it is wiser to refrain from premarital sex and keep your virginity for your husband.

 

  1.  The traditional and moral laws in most societies forbid sexual relations outside marriage. In the olden days, it is always a source of pride for a Parent to give out his daughter as a virgin to the Bride on the wedding day. I guess our forefathers have good reasons for observing this principle. Read the rest of this entry »

Why should I marry?

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Ecclesiastes 3 vs. 2-3

 

To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born…

 

There is a time to get married

 

You are supposed to get married at a certain point in your life. The institution of marriage was ordained by God. One of the things you should achieve in your lifetime is marrying someone you love and bringing up Godly offspring through the process. Your wedding day should be one of the most notable, happiest, and important days in your life.

 

They Bible say there is a time for everything; therefore there is a time you should get married. How do you know the best time to get married? Several factors will help you to decide when to get married.

 

Wisdom dictates that you should finish your studies or career course before getting married. Marriage may disturb your educational plans because you can no longer take decisions on your life without consulting your partner. Therefore it is best to complete the minimum educational level required for you to earn a decent living before you get married.

 

One of the fruits of marriage is child bearing. So are you physically and emotionally ready to give birth to children and train them up? This supposes that if you are 18 years old and below under guidance, it is not the right time to get married. Marriage is not for teenagers.

 

Marriage involves some financial commitments- housing, transport, feeding, child care and extended family. Either of you should have a ready and guaranteed source of financing before you get married.

 

Marriage involves some planning, you have to plan for your new home as you cannot to squat as couples, you have to plan for your wedding day, you have to get your marriage plans approved by your parents, and you have to plan to inform your close relatives and friends. Devote enough time for this. Don’t rush into marriage.

 

You should be able to win the heart of someone you love before you can start talking of marriage. Marriage is a two sided love. You should love someone, and the person must also love you.

 

Another important factor is the readiness of both parties to get married. If either of the party is not willing to get married now, then the relationship is heading for the rocks.

 

Once the conditions are right for you to get married, seek the face of God. He created the institution of marriage and wishes to see you get married. But don’t keep God out of your plans. The Bible says our plans will succeed once we commit them to God.

 

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Reasons for late marriages

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Spiritual check up on late Marriages

 

“For I know the plans I have for you, to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you an expected end” – Jeremiah 29vs.11 NIV Living Bible.

 

There is a time for everything, a time to quit bachelorhood or spinsterhood and get hooked to the right partner. Time to build a Christian home and bring up godly Children. Time to stop walking alone or planning alone. Time to get married.

 

Are you experiencing some marital delays? Ideally, from a lady should get married as soon as she finishes her education, gets a work and in her twenties. Same for men? Are you having problems sustaining your relationships? To overcome these problems, please follow the spiritual prescriptions itemized below:

 

Conduct a Spiritual check. Investigate your family background. At what age did your mother get married? What of your sisters, half sisters, cousins, and Aunts? Is there any evil pattern of late marriages in your immediate or extended family?

 

How did your past relationships break up? Did you notice a usual pattern of occurrences before your past relationships wind up?

 

Try and recollect your dreams. Has anyone claimed to be your husband in a dream? Have you ever seen yourself in a wedding in a dream? Have you ever seen yourself as a mother with children in a dream?

 

What is your emotional relationship with your parents? It is possible that there is a soul tie with your parents. If you a lady, how much is your father fond of you. If you a man, what is your mother’s attitude to the break up of your past relationships?

 

Late marriages could also be a result of curse issued against you as a result of past romantic or sexual escapades. But thank God, Jesus has redeemed you from every inherited curse.

 

How did you break up your past relationships? Have you jilted some one before? Have you ever promised to marry someone and failed before. Have you ever made a marriage vow to someone and break it.

 

There are some deep questions that you need to ask your parents. Did they promise you in marriage to anyone when you were young?

 

Are you a normal person biologically? Do people have any information that makes you unattractive as a life partner? Are you sure you are not a eunuch? All things being equal can you raise up children through the normal biological process.

 

Have you ever made a vow or covenant to any person or power that you will not marry? Have you engaged in demonism and have exchanged your marriage for ‘false’ Wealth and Honour.

 

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Prayers against Late Marriages

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“For I know the plans I have for you, to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you an expected end” – Jeremiah 29vs.11 NIV Living Bible.

 

Every curse of late marriages in my family life, break in Jesus name.
My bones of my bones appear now in Jesus name.

 

My flesh of flesh, manifest now in Jesus name.

 

Every spirit power claiming to be my husband/wife, I cut you off in Jesus name.

 

Demon spirit causing confusion at the edge of my marriages, I paralyze you with the blood of Jesus.

 

Every power chasing away my potential partner, die in Jesus name.

 

Anything in me that is causing my late marriage, die in Jesus name.

 

Evil dedication against my marriage, I cancel it by the blood of Jesus.

 

I release myself from oracles that have married me.

 

My spirit husband/wife, receive your divorce certificate in Jesus name.

 

Anti marriage soul tie between me and my parents, break by fire.
Evil veil or mark that makes me unattractive and unmarriageable, catch fire in Jesus name.

 

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Prayer : I want to marry Now

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“For I know the plans I have for you, to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you an expected end” – Jeremiah 29vs.11 NIV Living Bible

 

When are you getting married? God wants you to get married. He instituted the marriage. If for any reason you are finding it difficult getting married, then surely this is not part of God’s plan for your life. God is thinking of your wedding day. He is looking forward to see you in that beautiful wedding dress.

 

Was is delaying your marriage? Are you finding it difficult getting a right partner? Here is a checklist of things you need to note to get a right partner.

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Bible passages on polygamy

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(1 Cor 6:12, NIV).

“King Solomon, however, loved many foreign women besides Pharaoh’s daughter – Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians and Hittites”<strong> (1 Kings 11:1, NIV).

“Everything is permissible for me” – but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me” – but I will not be mastered by anything
“‘Everything is permissible’ – but not everything is beneficial. ‘Everything is permissible’ – but not everything is constructive” (1 Cor 10:23, NIV)

He was the richest king in his time. There was, and still is, no one as wise as this king. God favored him above all other kings. God had determined to establish his kingdom forever. However, because of what he loved, his kingdom crumbled.

That was king Solomon whom God endowed with greatness in wisdom, understanding and even wealth. Apart from the written Law of Moses that was guiding the people of Israel that he was leading, God appeared to him twice to warn him to keep these commands. Yet, Solomon loved foreign women and made them to turn his heart from his God.

Having many wives (especially foreign) for a king is not a new thing. It is a diplomatic way of establishing one’s kingdom. Nevertheless, it is not the God’s way. That way caused the fall of Solomon.

What do you also love most? The thing may be legitimate and permissible, but is it beneficial? Is it constructive? Is it God’s will for you? Would God be happy with that thing that you love most?

Be careful lest the thing you love becomes your master and turn you away from God.

Bayo Afolaranmi (Pastor).
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Marriage: Knowing God’s will

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Five Destiny choices

    • Choice of Profession
    • Choice of Marriage
    • Choice of Counsellor
    • Choice of lifestyle
    • Choice of commitment to service

Choice of Profession

Genesis 4 vs. 19-20: Lamech married two women. One wife was named Adah, and the other wife was named Zilllah. Adah gave birth to Jabal. Jabal was the father of people who lived in tents and earn their living by keeping cattle.

Genesis 25 vs. 27: The boys grew up, Esau became a skilled hunter. He loved to be out in the fields. But Jacob was a quiet man. He stayed in his tent.

  1. Esau choose to be a hunter, and Jacob was dwelling in the tents. Esau was always with animals, but Jacob was around people and listened to necessary instructions from men.
  2. A lot of people are doing the wrong jobs.

Choice of Marriage

Genesis 26 vs. 34-35: When Esau was 40 years old, he married two Hittite women. One was Judith the daughter of Beeri. The other was Basemath the daughter of Elon. These marriages made Isaac and Rebekah very upset.

  1. Esau choose the wrong profession and ended up in the wrong marriage. Esau married the enemies of God, the enemies of his destiny. He married from a cursed and rejected race.

Genesis 28 vs. 1: Isaac called Jacob and blessed him. Then Isaac gave him a command. Isaac said: “You must not marry a Canaanite woman.

Genesis 28 vs. 6-9: Esau learned that his father Isaac blessed Jacob. And Esau learned that Isaac sent Jacob away to Padan Aram to find a wife there. Esau learned that Isaac commanded Jacob not to marry a Canaanite woman. And Esau learned that Jacob obeyed his father and his mother and went to Paddan Aram.

Esau saw fromthis that his father did not want his sons to marry Canaanite woman. Esau already had two wives. But he went to Ishmael and married another woman. He married Mahalath, the daughter of Ishmael. Ishmael was Abraham’s son. Mahalath was Nebaioth’ sister.

  1. All the life of Esau was a revelation of negative choices- wrongprofession, wrong marriage, and these eventually became his doom.

Final words

1.For you to have a successful life, you must make the right choice.

2.You choice in life determines your estate and destiny in life.

3.Poverty only resides in the life of people who want it.

Prayer points

  1. Every anointing of negative choice in my blood, die in the name of Jesus.

  2. By the spirit of the living God, I terminate every appointment with sorrow.

This message was preached by Pastor Adeyokun at Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries, Ilesa, Osun State, Nigeria. October 28, 2007

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Prayers for pregnant mothers: I shall deliver safely

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Exodus 1 vs. 19 – And the midwives said unto Pharaoh, Because the Hebrew women are not as the Egyptian women; for they are lively, and are delivered ere the midwives come in unto them.

 

  1. Satanic nurses and doctors waiting for my day of childbirth, I terminate your agenda in Jesus name
  2. Evil hands assigned against my childbirth, wither in Jesus name
  3. Holy Spirit direct me to a godly hospital for my childbirth in Jesus name

 

 

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Prayers for safe pregnancy

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Exodus 1 vs. 16 –  And he said, When ye do the office of a midwife to the Hebrew women, and see them upon the stools; if it be a son, then ye shall kill him: but if it be a daughter, then she shall live.

 

  1. I terminate every evil agenda for the day of my childbirth in Jesus name
  2. Dark powers waiting for me in the labour room, die in Jesus name
  3. Angels of God, accompany me to the labour room in Jesus name.

 

 

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Prayers for pregnant women

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Exodus 2 vs. 19 – And the midwives said unto Pharaoh, Because the Hebrew women are not as the Egyptian women; for they are lively, and are delivered ere the midwives come in unto them.

 

  1. God of Hebrews, make me deliver like Hebrew women on the day of delivery in Jesus name
  2. Spirit of Hebrew women, fall on me in Jesus name
  3. My childbirth shall be like that of the Hebrew women in Jesus name

 

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Prayers for supernatural child birth

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Exodus 2 vs. 19 – And the midwives said unto Pharaoh, Because the Hebrew women are not as the Egyptian women; for they are lively, and are delivered ere the midwives come in unto them.

 

  1. Supernatural childbirth is my portion in Jesus name
  2. I reject hard labour for my child’s delivery in Jesus name.
  3. Power to deliver with ease; fall on me in Jesus name.

 

 

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Prayers for the firstborn child

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Genesis 49 vs. 3-4 – Reuben, thou art my firstborn, my might, and the beginning of my strength, the excellency of dignity, and the excellency of power: Unstable as water, thou shalt not excel; because thou wentest up to thy father’s bed; then defiledst thou it: he went up to my couch.

  1. My firstborn shall be responsible and God fearing in Jesus name
  2. My firstborn shall not be wayward in Jesus name
  3. My firstborn shall not bring me sorrow in Jesus name

 

 

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Sermon: How to train a child

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Genesis 34 vs.1 and 3 – 1 And Dinah the daughter of Leah, which she bare unto Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. 3 And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spake kindly unto the damsel.

  1. Parents need to watch/guide the movements of their children.
  2. Ensure your children do not mix with ungodly people or unbelievers.
  3. In this passage, Jacob’s allowed his daughter to visit the daughters of the land and she ended up being raped.

 

Prayers

–          I cut evil friends in my children’s’ life in Jesus name.

–          Evil programmed against my family be exposed in Jesus name.

 

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Dating tips for Teenagers

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Genesis 34 vs. 1-4 – And Dinah the daughter of Leah, which she bare unto Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spake kindly unto the damsel. And Shechem spake unto his father Hamor, saying, Get me this damsel to wife.

 

  1. Choose your friends carefully. Don’t associate with ungodly friends
  2. When you are visiting your friends, male or female, always go in company of someone you trust that can protect you. In this passage, Dinah went to see her female (not male) friends, yet she was sexually assaulted.
  3. Avoid walking around visiting people; you can see anyone you wish for in church or school.

 

Prayer

Holy Spirit, choose my friends for me in Jesus name.

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