Recovery cannot happen until a woman is willing to look at herself in the mirror and say, “I messed up”. People who blame other people never recover because they live in a state of denial. Any time you blame another person for your problem, you give that person control of your life. With your blame, you are saying “I can get out until you let me out. I can’t succeed until you allow me to succeed. I can’t move forward in my life until you give me the green light.” That’s a lie of the devil!
According to Deuteronomy 30:15-19, , you make the choice. You must accept responsibility for your actions. It may not have been all your fault responsibility for your own actions. It may not have been all your fault, but you need to accept responsibility for the part that was. You must be able to say to yourself, I wasn’t without fault. I was a contributing factor”.
Unless you are able to accept responsibility for your actions, you will be eaten up with unresolved guilty. It will rot inside you and erupt in your life in the form of Jealousy and anger and hatred and bitterness. Identify the people you are devil will try to speak in your mind when he tells you; it’s not your fault. It’s all his fault.
You were right, he was wrong. Things were just oust of control. You didn’t do anything bad. Somebody else is to blame for all this.” No! Accept your share of the responsibility for what has gone wrong and ask God to forgive you.
God is too wise and too loving to put your destiny into the hands of another person. He doesn’t want another person’s action to control your future. What you do from this point on is up to you. How you feel and how you react and what you do and what you say and what you choose and how you deal with the past is soley your responsibility. It’s your decision.
If you will face up to your own sin and take hold of the hand of our influence of any person, the evil of any circumstance. You can lie and not die!
You don’t need to live with depression, oppression, or suppression. God wants you to come out of your feeling of failure and rejection and regret. It’s time-choose life.
Source T.D. Jakes