|By Pastor Enoch Adeboye|
|Memorise: “So he fed them according to the integrity of his heart; and guided them by the skilfulness of his hands” ( Psalm 78:72)
Read: Genesis 2:21-22
|In Genesis 24:1-6, not only was Abraham concerned about Isaac’s bride, he ensured his chief servant was put under oath to pick from his home town. For many years, Abraham sojourned in Canaan – the promised land yet when it came to choosing a wife for his son Isaac, he went home. A time to marry is a time to return home – to the Body of Christ.
Every believer has his or her spouse waiting in the Body of Christ, not necessarily in the same denomination. Are you single and trusting God for a husband or wife? Go back to the Body of Christ. Once you have accepted God’s verdict that unbelievers are completely out of it – no matter how intelligent, rich, understanding or compatible the fellow may be, the next thing is to decide whether you want to choose by yourself, through some assistance by men, or you want God to choose for you.
You are free to choose a fellow believer as a marriage partner but there are high risks involved in this. It is possible the fellow you see as very zealous, up and doing and an ideal spouse could be putting up an act, or may be a spiritual weight. Many believers have fallen prey to such actors in the past and are today full of regrets.
A promising young brother got involved with a sister who joined the church. She went through the young converts class and was water-baptized. Before the pastor knew it, they were seeing each other and eventually fell into fornication. After the brother was disciplined, he went ahead to marry the lady. Years later, the initial fire in the brother refused to ignite.
He continued to serve God peripherally. When he was being considered for a ministerial training, his wife was the excuse. Her presence in his life had quenched the Pentecostal fire in him. Younger believers have come and over taken the brother, yet his eyes have not opened to his persistent lukewarm state. Another reason not to choose by yourself is that whatever you use as criteria for your choice may not stand the test of time.
If you are choosing him because he is rich or choosing her because she is very pretty, what happens when that wealth or beauty disappears tomorrow? You can be sure that will become a big problem. Also, human beings are generally limited in their ability to make right choices. You may be choosing that fellow because of what you can see today instead of looking at his tomorrow. Let God choose for you!
|Some pastors manipulate their members to marry only from their local parish contrary to the will of God. Never play God in the lives of those under you!|