Counselling tips on premarital sex and relationships

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Memorise: “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Heb 13:4)Read: Matthew 1:17-19
counsellingThe genealogy listed here included even those who were carried away in exile into Babylon and those born in the land of captivity. The fact that they were in captivity did not exempt them from this list.This means that all achievements and accomplishments for God’s Kingdom during captivity – wilderness period are noted by Heaven and remain relevant as far as God is concerned.

You should never be tired or discouraged during your trying moments. You will not lose your reward. Infact, service in the most difficult times attracts greater rewards for the believer.

Although not too much is said about Joseph in the Bible, this passage tells us one or two things about him. He was a morally upright and God fearing man. He was betrothed to Mary yet he never defiled their bed. Unfortunately, many would- be couples today have taken their consent to marry as an excuse to fornicate or engage in sex before marriage.

Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge”. The moment you engage in premarital sex before or during courtship with the one you want to marry, it erodes honour in your marriage. You cannot eat your cake and have it! You cannot defile your bed and retain the honour God has prepared to envelope you and your spouse.

Do you know that if Joseph had forced his way into sleeping with Mary before their marriage, she would never have been the mother of Jesus? But because they kept their bed, God decided to honour them by asking His only begotten Son to come through that couple. Do you know that God still rewards couples who keep to God’s Word and ensure their bed is undefiled? You can be like Mary and Joseph.

Keep yourself pure. Your body is not for fornication. You abuse your body when you fornicate. Your body was never designed to be used for fornication. Stop abusing your body through illicit sex, lustful exploits in nudity and pornography! Stop engaging your mind in polluted thoughts! Keep your heart pure.

The choice you make today determines the events of tomorrow. Watch your choices.




By Pastor Enoch Adeboye

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One thought on “Counselling tips on premarital sex and relationships

    Daisy said:
    July 9, 2014 at 3:27 am



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